Caregiving and/ or Codependency

OK, any other people out there who struggle with codependency and are a caregiver?? I've been giving some thought lately to what codependency is. Part of it may be how my life gets boxed in when I am focused on helping another person. I simply put MY normal life choices on pause for another person for a reward: affiliation, or being able to help someone "not as fortunate", fulfilling a sincere desire, pride - it can be anything. Codependency can be like an addiction and it can reoccur at different stages of life: during times of grieving, good and bad change, etc. A scary question can be: Are you care giving for healthy reasons or are you being codependent??. Come on, we all know that at the end of the day we'll fulfill our obligations! Whether yes, no, or maybe some of both, relax, it's OK!! A great resource to help answer that question is Codependent No More by Melody Beattie. If you are wondering if you are a codependent personality this book will get to the bottom of it for you. It includes helpful exercises, too. The bottom line is to live and have peace. (Check out this new song called Alive. It is performed by Michael Sweet).